355. Why don't I enjoy sex that much? - The Psychology of your 20s

Our 20s are sold to us as the decade of peak desire - full of passion, spontaneity, and effortless intimacy. But for so many of us, that isn’t the reality. When libido dips or fluctuates, it can feel confusing, isolating, and even shameful. In this episode, we ask why it is so common to struggle with libido in our 20s, what’s actually happening beneath the surface when desire feels distant, and how to make sense of the emotional and physical shifts that come with it. We explore: •        How it feels when our libido fluctuates •        Why so many of us struggle with this in our 20s •        The dual control theory of sexual response •        Libido as a reflection of safety •        The role of hormones, stress and mental health  •        Identity development and the impact of shame &bu...