Why chasing happiness makes you miserable (and how to choose better values) | Mark Manson

In this episode I am joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*, to talk about why so many of us build our lives around “shitty values” and what it takes to change. We discuss regret, shame and the stories we tell ourselves, and how taking responsibility without blaming yourself can transform the way you move through the world. Mark shares his counterintuitive values framework, why you actually need failure, uncertainty and rejection, and how contemplating your own mortality can help you decide what really deserves your limited time and energy. What We Cover Why “shitty values” are so alluring in early adulthood and how to recognise them in your own life The gap between your stated values and your lived behaviour, and why your actions tell the truth Responsibility versus fault, and how owning your choices creates agency after heartbreak and other setbacks People pleasing, approval seeking and the cost of caring too much what others think Why ...